The Question of Pain

When you fear you may break under the weight of life and find yourself with fists raised to the sky asking ‘Why?’, what are you to do?

Realize you have a limit. Whatever it is you can remove from you plate without compromising your job and livelihood – do so.  Because without your job and ability to pay your bills and provide for your family everything else you are dealing with will be so much harder.

Keep your commitments to non emotional things.  As shit hit the fan I was studying for my CEN, in my second master’s class, an Epic super user, mother and wife and full time employee.  Keeping my commitments to school and work and passing my certification kept me sane amidst a sea of emotional turmoil.

Give yourself and others grace. The most painful things you will go through will be in your relationships and most likely in your family.  Realize that you may be a superhero in all other areas of your life but when it comes to family don’t be surprised if you come undone.  Family crises hit a spot in your soul that no other pain can touch.

Limit the time you deal with the problem. Keep yourself from constantly talking about it, thinking about it or dwelling on it.  This is a time when it’s ok to distract yourself with positive things. 

Mature. Come out of the pain a new and different person. Own up to where you dealt poorly with relationships and your emotions.

Get used to a new normal.  A family crises may forever change your reality. Grieve over the change but stop longing for the way things used to be. 

Look to the future. Eventually this will pass and you will be the better for it.

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